dear heather,

I have been with my boyfriend for four months. When we first started dating, he was a virgin and I respected that. But not too long after we started dating, we had sex and have ever since. Now four month later, he wants to stop because “God has told him that is the right thing to do.” After having sex, would it be right if we wore purity rings?

Purity rings are symbolic of abstaining from sex, but traditionally they are worn by people who practice celibacy until marriage. The idea behind the ring is that, in wearing it on your left hand ring finger, you vow to remain “pure” until it can be replaced by a wedding ring. It’s very similar to a virginity pledge, which is a commitment to wait to have sex until marriage.When it comes down to it, though, purity rings mean different things for different people. If you want to wear one as a reminder of your abstinence, by all means wear one. But if you don’t feel right about wearing one since you have had sex in the past, don’t feel pressured to wear one “just because.”

take care,
heather