the other day i tried masturbating for the first time and nothing happened

Q: The other day I tried masturbating for the first time and nothing happened. Was I doing something wrong?

A: Nah. But you might not have been touching the place on your body that is going to get the most response (aka the clitoris).

The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman


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63 Comments

  1. avatarangel459 says:

    i used one of those vibrating back massages and OMFG! it was amzeballs.

  2. avatarna says:

    Omg, vibrating toothbrush, almost just died!

  3. avatarhannah says:

    ok…i masterbate allll the time..like i did juss a few mins ago ;]
    buhtt anywaysz….i have been masterbating since i was like a lil kid..lmfao…it was weirdd…i only play with mi clitt…i nevr finger myself…and i rly want tooo….like..i tried…buht it juss doesnt rlly feel that good…and i want to learn how to be able to give myself an orgasim by usin my vagina hole…lol…i feel like somthin is wrong with meee…buht evryone says its normall…..i cant find my G SPPPOOTTTT…i tried with a toy..buht..its juss feels like blahh…:
    so can sumwun pleaseeee help meeeee!!!!!!
    email me
    xxblaznlilmamixx@yahoo.com
    i would reeallyyyy appriciate itttt soo much
    thank yeww

  4. avatarmerna says:

    if you have a guy friend that you could talk to about masturbation, like txting him or something, its really hot doing it while ur talking about it. he'll think its hot too.

  5. avatarmary mack says:

    okay, i've been master/ for like….10 years,(im 17) i started accidently with the jets in the hot tub, then i once used the edge of a chair, then i used my fingers. i almost always used fingers on cliteral stim. i only started penatrating like 2 years ago. i still don't master that way though.
    i've now started using both the shower head and the faucet in the tub, both work amaizingly!!!: DDDD
    then i got a vibrating razor and (out of curiosity) thourghly cleaned it, took the razor off, and went at it! wow!!! it was good but i don't do it often because im paranoid about hygein with it.
    Now i have a boyfriend and literally 8 days ago he used his fingers on me. he went inside and i think if i hadn't been so tense it would have felt good, but i knew where my spots were from experiance and showed him and he had me cumming in like 5 min. (it takes me 2 but he was learning! love him!)
    DO NOT USE FOOD! OMG, i knew a girl who used tunafish….idk why! she got a major infection, food is not safe at all! there are so many other ways to feel pleasure it's not worth the risk to use food!

  6. avatarnati says:

    i wana ask can u loose ur virginity while masturbating? cuz i dont wana loose it at my age
    i mean by only rubbing not using anything?
    i know if feels good but if its gunna caus any damage i will stop so plz answer me as soon as posible thanx

  7. avatarnati says:

    …heheheh

  8. avatarmmmmhmm. says:

    i have the same problem, the banna thing works great though. The great thing about it is, it's safe sex.

  9. avatarstephanieeee! says:

    ok, i love to bate.
    every night.
    oh yeahhh.
    everywhere too. shower. bed. floor.
    i use a banana too. and i peel it :]
    it feels warm and squishy. but dont use a hotdog. that will break off inside you. haha. i learned from experience. :]]]<3!

  10. avatarAdvice says:

    Ok guys, for starters, don't use objects that aren't intended for sexual pleasure. It's unsanitary and you could hurt yourself. I know you may feel a little desperate if you are young or shy and not comfortable with or able to purchase sexual toys, but using a hairbrush or the back end of a razor is just not a healthy option.
    The easiest, cleanest, most natural way to masturbate is just with your fingers. I have been masturbating since I went through puberty at about thirteen and I have never needed toys or objects. Also, whether or not you are a virgin does not change your ability to masturbate. It is possible that a virgin might be less familiar with these parts of her body and so might have a little trouble getting started, but that is no reason to worry. Just close your eyes and imagine things that would be sexually pleasurable for you. Picture someone you find sexually attractive and what they would do or say to turn you on. Then just take two or three fingers and massage the outside of your vagina and touch your clitoris. You will have to take the time to find the spots that feel good for you. Also, some women choose to touch themselves inside their vagina, but I have never done this and I have no problem reaching orgasm.
    That's all the advice I have, but I think it is more helpful then some of the judgmental or irresponsible comments I have found on this page.

  11. avataralexis says:

    ok i can see u doin it a couple times but it shouldn't turn into a regular thing or during sex maybe u could but still!!!! grossssssss!!!!!!*********

  12. avatarKiiMMAY x3 says:

    WOW iim A GURl nd SERIOUSLY r GuYSz dht despirate dht dhey wud use a FUkiiN HAiir BRUSh ?! liike wtf JuSt fiind sumone tht isz real nd not a hair brush nd have your fun !

  13. avatarisabel says:

    all of this is really crazy i have never read so many crazy ideas but can u masturbate yourself even though u r a virgen…..

  14. avatarDarrnesha Thoma says:

    Using a brush is nasty but anyways im still a virgin and I don't really know how to mast buti tried it and i really need some advice plz

  15. avatarMarian says:

    I remember the first time I masturbated and i was scared because I thought it was goinbg to hurt but it felt really good going in and out its a tingly sensation.

  16. avatarshadaya says:

    i rememeber the first time that i mastervated i was at school and this boy was so sexy so i went to the bathroom got my hair brush and i sat there for a long time goin in out feeling on my clith it felt so good

  17. avatarlynn says:

    i like to maturbate.
    i use a vibrating razor and just take off the blade part.
    and just put it on your clit like push then let go..almost like a humping rhythm and that gives me the most amazing orgasm! :]

  18. avatarlindsey says:

    ahhh i cant ever get "the feeling" only from my clit : S i really want to try somthing new like using my whole haha help me find somthing new.

  19. avatarHolly says:

    Unlike what "th" said; if you're going to masturbate with a banana, DO NOT PEEL IT.
    For the love of god, if you for some bizarre reason peel it, put a condom over it so that it doesn't break off inside you and cause an infection. And even if you don't peel it, it's advisable to put a condom on it or at least wash it well before masturbating with it.
    And "kadeen" said you won't be a virgin if you use a dildo, but that's not true at all because you haven't had sex yet.
    And "spartan117", you can certainly feel inside your vagina quite well, especially on your g-spot and a-spot, but the clitoris is way way way sensitive, so there's more pleasure. =)

  20. avatarjordin says:

    Ive been masturbating for about a year. i would rather do it by touching my clitoris. my favorite thing to do is take an electric toothbush, because i dont have a vibrator, and rub around my clitoris with it on. it gives you a great orgasm.

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