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Question: I have had anal sex and I don’t know if I’m a virgin or not. People have told me that sex is sex and it doesn’t matter, but others have said that you can only lose your virginity if you have vaginal sex. I’m confused!
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hey um can u loose ur verginty buy just rubbing not going into the hoole thingy but am stiil scared becouse i hear u can loose it during masturbation
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PLZ SOME1 HELP ME
my opinion is dat your still a virgin.dont never let a boy put his penis in your butt ever again.lol [please]!he has to put it in your virgina all da way in.& no everybody does not have a cherry.because when i lost my virginity no blood came out.soo yeah your still a virgin.& juss make sure yu lose it to the RIGHT ONE!
Okay, okay.
This is a topic I have discussed many times, and I have come to this conclusion: Sex is something emotional, something you feel.
If you feel that when you had anal sex, your virginity was taken, then no, you are not a virgin anymore.
However, if you feel that it wasn't the emotional, or even physical experience, you were expecting 'sex' to be, then yes, you can be a virgin.
You decide. Do not let anyone else tell youw what sex is, it is something you must figure out for yourself.
it depends on what your definition of a virgin is. if you define a virgin as not having vaginal sex, then youre still a virgin. if you define a virgin as not having oral sex, then youre still a virgin. etc etc. so it just depends on what you call a virgin. your best bet would probably to just let your next partner know that youve already had anal sex so that theres no miscommunication
its all in your mind, dear. your virginity is how you perceive it. everyone has a different idea of what actually counts as sex. is anal sex, sex to you? do you consider yourself a virgin? dont go on what you've heard. or on what other people think. its all about how you think and maybe how your partner feels too.
im glad someone felt the same wayy
i wonder if im a virgin cause i had anal sex
but when people ask me am i a virgin idk wat to say
my friends that kno always yell and say im not sure am i or am i not ?
I think I'll quote my friend on this:
"If you were twelve and you told your mom that wasn't sex, she'd smack you."
I personally consider myself a virgin. I have had anal sex many times with my boyfriend. I am on birth control, but we haven't found the perfect, special time. I think of anal as a pleasurable alternative. But hey, if someone wants to call me a non-virgin, let them. I love my man, and we share everything. The word itself means nothing, so don't define yourself by it.
Elinor… what is the dif? I don't really know but I would like to. I think…
Anyway, everyone's def. of a virgon is different. If you think you are a virgin, then accept it, if you think you aren't, accept that.
I think it's obvious from the comments here that this is seen as a bit of a grey area. In my opinion, no, you are not a virgin because a penis has penetrated you. But that is MY opinion. I guess it all depends on how YOU feel. Do you feel like a virgin? I dont know.
My personal opinion is that you are not a virgin anymore. Anal SEX. You have SEX, you are not virgin.
YES you are still a virgin, no matter what any of these other people have said. I saw on Talk Sex with Dr Sue Johanson that you are a virgin until you have had vaginal sex. That is the ONLY kind of sex that counts for losing your virginity. She said that lesbians who have oral sex, or gay men that have anal sex, are technically virgins as well. The only sex that counts to losing your virginity is vaginal intercourse sex.
nope u are not a girgin . because all sex is sex just because u havent had viginal sex doenst mean ur steal a virgin, even tho u cant get pragnent throug it dosnt mean u cant get deseases from it
My insite on this issue you are only half a virgin. because you've had anal sex so you are not an anal virgin but you are a vaginal virgin becuase ou haven't had your "cherry popped"
yeah you are; cause losing your virginity invloves the virgina you have to get that thingy teared [pop your cherry] anal sex is totaly different then viginal sex
No, you are not a virgin!!!! Just cuz I havent had anal sex am I a virgin? (ass virgin lol)
virginity is in the mind. only you can decied if you are a virgin or not, it is how u feel that counts. it is an emotional experience which only you can analyse.