is my vagina too loose for sex?

dear heather,
I’m ready to lose my virginity but I’m too scared I’m loose down there. I use tampons and they go in easily and I masturbate every now and then and that’s easy, too. I even used the end of a brush to masturbate, but it never hurts or I never bleed when I do it so I think I didn’t break my hymen. But when me and my boyfriend have sex for the first time I don’t want him to tell me I’m loose. After using a tampon and masturbating at just 14, will I be loose?
Your vagina has the amazing ability to stretch out and then contract back to its normal shape. How do you think gURLs have sex after giving birth to a baby with a head around 10 cm in diameter?! So think about how wide a tampon is and you’ll realize that you have nothing to worry about. A tampon is about the same size as a skinny finger, so there’s no way that you could be too loose during sex.

Using a hairbrush or another object during masturbation is also not going to make you loose. At your age, you don’t have anything to worry about. Your skin’s elasticity is at its prime and it will contract just as easily as it will stretch to accommodate whatever is inside your vagina.

Be safe and make sure you’re having sex for the right reasons. If you’re having anxiety about what your boyfriend will criticize about you after having sex for the first time, it might mean that you’re not ready to share that experience with him and you’re not completely comfortable with him. You should not have to worry about him judging your body.

Hope that helps.

take care,
heather


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  • Tracy Lynn

    I used myotaut and noticed a difference pretty quickly from (myotaut.com). I also do kegal exercises with it they both work.