is it normal to bleed during your first time having sex?

Question: Is it normal to bleed during your first time having sex?

Answer: Yup. Of course, it’s also normal not to bleed.

Bleeding can happen if a girl still has her hymen. (That’s the thin tissue that stretches over the opening to the vagina). A lot of girls stretch their hymens long before ever having sex by riding a bike, doing gymnastics or using a tampon. But if you are a girl who didn’t, you might notice some blood when you first have sex.

Another reason girls may bleed during sex is one that bugs me: Overeager, inconsiderate partners.

If you have sex with a guy who is all "go go go," and who forces his penis inside you before your body is ready, then you might get an injury that causes bleeding. In my book that’s no good.

If you bleed a bit the first time you have sex, it’s no big deal. But sex should feel good for both people. And most of the time bleeding is a sign that it isn’t.

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  • Micah

    I’m 14 and my boyfriend insisted on having sex, so I did an I’m bleeding lightly but no pain! What is this?

    • Elly

      Never fall into pressure, if you know you’re not ready and a guy keeps instituting or forcing you then they don’t care about you and aren’t worthy. Someone who respects your decision will not do that. If you say no and they get mad then oh well, what’s important is how you feel, and press always remember to use a condom.

  • Myaa

    I’m 15 and I’m a virgin , and I have a feeling that my hymen is broken cause I engage in activities such as gymnastics and riding bike. And my boyfriend is tired of waiting … And he wants to have sex , I’m always wondering if I would bleed after I do it or will it hurt after I’ve done it !

    • loren

      yes its normal for you to bleed and have pain but if u bleed a lot and it hurts really bad then there might be something wrong

  • CKM

    I’m 17 and my boyfriend is 17, and for the first time ever we had sex, he didnt go in far (not that i could tell) and he pulled out before anything came out of him, It hurt.. and I feel like I have a rug burn down there, and I keep bleeding .. I’m kind of scared…

  • lisa

    i just had sex for the first time and i was bleeding. i stopped bleeding right after i took a shower, he wasnt rough or anything but im a but sore, is that normal?

  • SelinaMaee.

    I just had sex with my boyfriend and like after I started bleeding bad, and it hurt. He kinda pushed it in like really deep. Is that okay?

  • Jasmine

    The first time I did it, I bled after the fact. But I’ve done it 3 other times now and I’m bleeding during sex each time and I know it’s not my period. What is it ?!

  • Amy

    I'm 15 and I'm a virgin. The only thing I'm really scared about in having sex is it being painful and awkward the first few times. If I bled I really wouldn't know what to do, I know it's normal but I'd be so embarrassed.

  • Ali <3

    I've NEVER bled so I can't really comment….

  • Ali <3

    I’ve NEVER bled so I can’t really comment….

  • worriedgirl

    what if you didnt bleed the first time, but the next few days after you do? and you know its not your period??

  • riley

    ok so this is kinda weird but.. i didn't bleed until like the 3rd or 4th time my boyfriend and i had sex. but it wasn't painful, it was actually really good. i think the other times just weren't at the right angle or something. lol. so even if you don't bleed your first time but then do later, it's normal(as long as it isn't really painful).

  • Katie

    So I had sex for the first time, and I bled like a lot. For the rest of the day, and a bit the next day. I am so scared to have sex again in fear I will bleed again. He wasnt too rough, but he is very big. I have dont many other sexual acts before, and never bled, I know my hymen has already broke. but I also am allergic to latex and we used a latex condemn. do you think that had anything to do with it?