discuss: if i have pre-marital sex, will it make me a slut?

Question: I’ve always wanted to save sex until I was married, but every day it seems like it’s getting harder to resist. Do you think if I have pre-marital sex it will make me a slut? Will guys automatically think I’m easy?

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  • Jo

    It does make you a slut. You do it once, the guy ends up leaving you and then you sleep with everyone. The only reason most people are disagreeing is because they are sluts. It also produces illegitimate bastard children as apparently one idiot here has four times experience with. If you love each other and aren’t compulsive animals you can wait.

    I would also like to point out that most people saying “go on have sex with some people, you only live once.” Have the grammar skills of a lemur with a keyboard, not the sort of people anyone should take advice from. Either way some people (other sluts) will tell you that you’re not a slut, but there will be people who make fun of you and call you a filthy whore behind your back. Just so your know.

    • :D

      Dont you think that if you have to call so many people sluts just to justify your opinion, maybe youre just a prude?

  • Cat

    Premarital sex does not make you a slut. Women often get labeled negatively for whatever they choose to do with their bodies. If they don't want sex but are hot, they're a "tease." If they enjoy having sex, but don't want a commitment, they're a "slut." If they have sex with more than one person, they're a "whore." If they don't talk about their sex life, they're a "prude." Honestly, sex doesn't make you anything. How you choose to express yourself sexually is no one's business, and they have no right to judge.

  • Teriauna

    It doesn't make you a slut. I'm 16 years old, and I think I'm the only one in my group of friends who is still a virgin (i'm the "innocent" one) so I know how you feel about waiting and it's hard- real hard. I think that if you're with someone you really REALLY like, whether you're grown or a teen, and you want to SUPER bad… everybody gets urges, even the most innocent people you know.
    *I know mine is long, but I'm super long-winded* lol

  • Meli

    Hell nah dat does not make u a slut
    A slut is someone who sleeps with sumone
    just for the fun of it it is normal for it to
    feel hard to abstain
    there are reasons y u shud wait to have sex
    b4 marriage wether it is to prevent an std or
    a unplanned pregnancy and remenber what
    Better gift than givin your hubby your virginity
    I am telling u dis from experience i am 16 i lost
    mine at 15 and i now regret it

  • telumwatitis

    NO it doesnt make you a slut.But its nothing to rush into.Go with your first mind in wait til your married.It will have such a deeper meaning.God will bless you with the right man that will wait for you until you as one with him married.I know you have the urge,we all do from time to time.Shoot man in prision have the URGE BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN RAPE THE MAN NEXT TO YOU.Pray them away in start focusing your time on something more productive.A productive mind is a mind not lost.You have your whole life a head of you.

  • Ali <3

    Not at all!!!!
    I was 16 and I lost my virginity, and no one thought I was anymore of a slut! And no guy thought I was EASY to get! They all knew they still had to work hard to get my anttention!!!
    And currently I am married to a guy and we have 5 kids, but we had 4 of the kids before we were engaged and the fifth one when we were engaged… and once again, no one thought I was a slut, they just knew how much we loved each other.
    Just do whatever you, and your boyfriend, wants to do. I know I'm sounding like an old lady, but don't listen to other people, cause honestly, having pre-marital sex isn't for sluts, it's for people that love each other who don't want to wait.
    🙂

  • Ali <3

    Not at all!!!!
    I was 16 and I lost my virginity, and no one thought I was anymore of a slut! And no guy thought I was EASY to get! They all knew they still had to work hard to get my anttention!!!
    And currently I am married to a guy and we have 5 kids, but we had 4 of the kids before we were engaged and the fifth one when we were engaged… and once again, no one thought I was a slut, they just knew how much we loved each other.
    Just do whatever you, and your boyfriend, wants to do. I know I’m sounding like an old lady, but don’t listen to other people, cause honestly, having pre-marital sex isn’t for sluts, it’s for people that love each other who don’t want to wait.
    🙂

  • soknowwhaturgoingthr

    no no no…its something u go thru to grow…never let anyone make ya decisions for u…if u wanna do do it bcuz u want to… if u feel any doubts wait

  • diana

    **no it doesnt make you a slut. a slut is someone who does it all the time and is easy. pre-marital sex is a crime that many people do. and yehh it is very hard to resist cause there are thoughts. but loseing your virginity comes with complecations. that is one of the many reasons why many people chose to do it with people they think are special.if you dont feel comfortable doing it then dont. dont become subjected to peer presasure. its your life live it the way you would like***