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I want to have a baby, but I’m only 14 and I don’t know If I’m ready for sex. But I love babies and I want one of my own. I already have names picked out and everything. I just want to be a mom. I am afraid to talk to anyone about it because I’m afraid of being judged. Is it crazy that I want a kid at my age or maybe when I get to about 16 or so? I know my parents wouldn’t approve. I feel obsessed and I just wanna have sex in hopes of “accidentally” getting pregnant. I need some help with changing my mind. Please somebody give me a reason to NOT want a baby. Is this normal? Maybe it’s just a phase. Am I the only one going through this??
Obsessions can be difficult to shake, but you need to understand how difficult it will be for you to handle having a baby at such a young age. Have you considered the constant sleepless nights or the reality that it will be very difficult for you to go to school and hang out with your friends and do ANY of the things that you take for granted right now. Having a child is a full-time responsibility. It is not all cuddling and cooing.
Also, have you thought about raising a child alone? Most guys your age will not be interested in having a child right now and raising a baby by yourself is no easy task. Think about how alone you will be and how difficult it will be to find a boyfriend when you have a toddler running around. If you’re thinking of accidentally getting pregnant when you have sex, you have to think about the guy’s feelings, too. It’s not just your decision. He will be held responsible, too, and he is probably not going to be OK with you abusing his trust and trying to get pregnant.
There are a lot of things to think about when you are trying to get pregnant and it sounds like you haven’t thought about most of those things. Take some time to imagine your life with a child. Think about all the things you won’t be able to do anymore and all the people you won’t be able to hang out with because you won’t have time. Also, realize that the experience of having a baby will still be there for you in a few years. Being prepared for that huge step in your life is a crucial part of having a child. If you’re not prepared, you won’t be the mom you want to be.
take care,
heather
Hello. my name is Destiny Ring. I’ll be going into 9th grade in the fall. I’m going to be 14 in June. Since I was 12 I have wanted a baby so bad. every time I see a baby it makes me think what would it be like to have a baby. My mom said if I did get pregnant she would be there for me through the pain. and I still don’t what to do.
I’m 14 years old and I feel the same way I really want a baby but I should wait I don’t want to but Its the right thing to do.
You are 14 and omega desperate for a baby? well I realize this was posted 2 years ago so you are probably 16 now but i’m gonna give it to you straight. You are too young to have a child and so help me god if i ever find out you are pregnant before age 18 (even that is pushing it) i will personally find out where you live and punch you as hard as I can in the stomach until my hand of god forcefully aborts you.
I really want a baby at just 14, i have a boyfriend and we talked about it, i also talked to my mum and dad about it, they said they will stand by me if i get pregnant. but am scared of getting pregnant. i know what i will do when i have the baby and how i will finish my school life. i know most people will say u just need someone to care around but no you don’t.
Please help.!:(
i feel the same way but my reasons r totally different from urs. My mom emotionally abuses me and i don’t have that love from anyone in my family, my step dad recently disappointed me and i had to cut him out my life, my biological dad is in and out of my life and so are my grandparents. im basically alone in this world. i want a baby so i can receive and get the love Ive wanted my whole life. im raised my niece and shes about to start kindergarten she always calls me mom and i have to tell her to call me auntie. when she calls me mom its the best filling anyone could ever have. i kno that u have sleepless nites, long days, drama, stress and worry about money. im practically a mom of a 5 year old at only 13-almost 14. i want the baby to call my own but i also want to wait tell i find tht special someone whether im married or not. im not taking the chance of getting AIDS or STDS but i do want a baby. ive done my research n i need $1,000 for the fisrt year including the furniture. i have got 200 in two months. im planning to wait until i atleast finish highschool and have my own place. its hard to feel this way and keep it bottled up inside. hopefully this goes away but ive felt this way since my neice was born 5 years i go.
P.S. i have 6 nieces and 1 nephew.12,10,7,5,4,8 months and my nephew is 3.
Hi I feel EXACTLEY the same, I’m 13 and I know my parents wouldn’t approve and I’ve started having dreams where I was pregnant and gave birth and I’d woke thinking it was real and getting really upset that I didn’t have one! Please help!!!xxx
hey i feel the same im 14 and really want a baby i watch all the programs like teen mom underage and pregnant,16 and pregnant but its not putting me off what should i do
Hi I’m 15 and I have a 1 and a half year old daughter, i lived with my mum at the time I found out (around 13) and she hit the roof and eventually I moved into my Nan’s house, I had sex twice before I got pregnant me and the father are still together and my nan now let’s him sleep round for a night or two. I got bullied heavly at school and was repeatedly called a slut, whore&sket and I damaged myself confidence badly. Taylor(my daughter) wasn’t planned though when I found out I kind of liked the idea I was going to be a mum. My friends, fortunately are extremely supportive:D just remember having a baby could drastically change you relationships with family&friends, for better or for worse so just be careful xxX
I can see what you mean. and I really want a baby. what is it like to have a baby at such a young age
I want to have a baby but I feel to young and sometimes I feel to old plus I’. Only 14 and so is my best guy friend who I want to go out with but I can’t help but feel like my life is empty without a. Baby plz help I feel like I’m going nuts
I’m 14 and I really want a baby don’t Listen to what otha ppl say its up to you hunnie good luck
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i relly want a baby to i feel ready
hey, im 13 and ive wanted a baby since i was 12 i think its normal but after seeing one of my “12″ year old friends get pregnant i started to realize that im not old enough to handle the responibiltities plus i thought that the dad wouldnt be there plus my sister got pregnant at a young age and had an abortion which i think is wrong because they arnt asked to be put in this world they are kinda just placed there. But still to this day i want one but everytime im with my boyfriend and i feel like i want un-safe sex so i “accidentaly” get pregnant i just think to myself are u ready for all that responsibility and not being able to spend night at friends houses going through the pain i just tell myself not yet and it usually slips away from my mind.
hello,
im 14, and your not the only one thinking this.. i think exacally the same.. i want to ‘accidently’ get pregnant.. but im not ready to have sex.. i’ve spoke about it once with my twin sister but it wasn’t very useful, my mum and dad would most certainly not agree with a baby at my age, but i so bad want one.. if you want to talk email me:)
Heey girl. i COMPLETELY understand!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When i was like 11 i wanted a baby. I am now 15 and still want a baby. me and my bf have sex and tried but idk we were unexpierienced when we tryed. lol. But now he doesnt want one anymore because we have planned a future. I mean i dont know if you have a boyfriend or not. But i honestly do want a baby now. All my friends would be supportive and everyone at my school wouldnt call me names or anything because my bf walks me to every class everyday and everyone thinks weve been together like 10 years or something lol. but i thought about my future i want to be a counseler. and go to school but itll be super hard with a baby and itll be expensive. My boyfriend told me when he was little sometimes he wouldnt eat because they had no food. And that made me sad i want more for my child. if you need to talk e mail me please! Mazura10@live.com
i want one too! Im 16 and my bf wants one too. i dont know what to do. my family is very supporting. should i?
Heey me 2!But I'm fourteen.:P
Sometimes I wear huge maxi dresses nd pretend I'm pregnant:P
Freaky right?xx
i know that babies are cute, trust me, i have a 6 month old cousin, but maybe if you try taking care of an egg for 3 months geeting up every 3 hours, you will quickly change your mind. like me!
Heeey I am 13
And i really want a baby and i have picked out baby names too,
when i wallk pas baby stuff i allwayz say that is well cute and stuff like that.
But I think It Is Normal But I feeel Stupit To Feel this Way.
I want to Have Sex and Get Pregnant Too, But My Mum Will Kill me!