Question: Are there any other ways to masturbate without fingering yourself?
Answer: Before I answer, allow me a second for a sex educator rant:
The fact that you need to ask this question reminds me that a lot of us are trapped by a fixation on penetration. This probably comes from the idea that penil /vaginal sex is the only "real" sex. As a result, people assume that even when there is no penis to be found for miles, you should act as if there is.
Okay, glad to get that off my chest! Now time for the facts.
Yes, there are plenty of other ways to masturbate besides fingering (or inserting fingers into the vagina). In fact, a lot of girls don’t ever put anything in their vagina when they masturbate.
For most girls, the clitoris and not the vagina, is the most sensitive part of the body. The clitoris can be hard to find, but rest assured, it’s there.
The best way to locate it? Look between your legs and part your labia (lips). The inner labia meet over the clitoris, forming its hood. The body of the clit is inside you, but you can generally see the head. It might look a little like the end of your finger or the tip of your nose.
Some girls rub the clitoris with their hands, or with an object like a vibrator. But if touching your clitoris directly seems too sensitive, you might want to rub it indirectly, using your labia to block a bit of the contact.
Plenty of girls really enjoy penetration. Others are losing out by focusing too much on the vagina and ignoring the organ that is actually jam-packed with nerve endings
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