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Q: Can I still get pregnant if a guy “pulls out” before he ejaculates? Or will it at least make pregnancy less likely?
A: Yes and yes.
Look, I have a friend who swears by the withdrawal method. She and her boyfriend have used it for years and she’s never gotten pregnant.
But I also know someone who now has a two-year-old who she swears came about despite the fact that her boyfriend sucessfully pulled out before ejaculating.
Withdrawal is a gamble. You might luck out and not get pregnant, but that’s not a guarantee. If you want to rest assured that you won’t get pregnant, use a reliable form of birth control–like a condom or the pill.
Neither of those options are as spontaneous as withdrawing. But then again, nothing kills spontaneous sex like the pitter pat of a small child’s feet…
Do you rely on withdrawal? If so, how come?
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So i’m, very young and me and my boyfriend have been having sex since like the second month we got together. We never use a condom he just pulls out everytime because he’s VERY careful about me getting preggo, he DOES NOT want to do that bc he knows that neither of us are ready. The reason we dont use protection is bc we dont know who to ask to buy them for us, we both have very strict parents when it comes to ruining our lifes bc of hormones. Anyway, I’ve been having a hard time breathing when I talk and i’ve been eating like a PIG! I’ve gained weight I know that for sure!! Do y’all think i’m pregnant?? I need a test but how am suppose to get one?): I dont want to say ANYTHING to my boyfriend about me not feeling right bc he will have a heart attack, LITERALLY! And I’d feel like a idiot if I ain’t and he’d think I told him that for attention or to make him worried, idk he’s just the type of guy who thinks he knows everything! But please help yall
Well, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. And we had sex for 6 times during these years. We always make sure that he peed and that he would only take 30 seconds or a minute inside me. I always tell him that he should NEVER come in me because we’re still not ready having a baby. I love him so much, and I’m glad he understands. Just 30 minutes ago, we had sex… As always, he peed before everything else and took about a minute and a half inside me. I was looking in the internet to see if I’m pregnant. Then I read your comments, it actually made me feel a lot safer. He’s someone I trust a lot so I know he wouldn’t come in me. I hope I’m not yet pregnant! I don’t want my baby reserved for about 10 years from now to be born in just 9 months.
i have a boyfriend. we are sexually active and we usually use condoms. however today we tried it without one it felt so much better without it. but now im scaref that i could be pregnant. he never came in me but there was precum im scared
I’ve used the withdrawal method, with mixed results.
The first guy I had sex with, we only pulled out once. But he pulled out just as he was orgasming–and while he didn’t think any got inside me, apparently he was wrong, because I tested positive for pregnancy not long after. I miscarried and we broke up shortly after.
After that I was vehement about using protection. I tried spermicide once… guess who found out the hard way that she was allergic?
The guy I’m with now is someone I love very much and trust completely. For the first six months of our relationship we used condoms (um, almost) every time (though there were a couple instances in which we pulled out), but for the last month or so, we have used withdrawal almost exclusively. We do what I call the “stop-and-go”. If he senses that he’s getting even the least bit close, we pause. He doesn’t pull out at that point, but we stop actually doing anything until he’s sure he’s well under control. Then we go another few minutes, stop, go, and so on until we’re ready to stop and cuddle.
I asked him once if it bothered him that he never gets to finish when we use withdrawal. But after a long discussion about it, we reached a mutual conclusion: it takes the “goal” of “getting there” out of sex and makes it about being close, feeling good, love and tenderness. I’ve noticed our sex is much less f*cking and much more making love, if that makes sense.
That said, I haven’t had my period in over a year, which lends to my not worrying too much about being fertile. I’m going to a gynecologist about it soon, but at the moment, it honestly doesn’t bother me.
Why am I so much more laid-back about withdrawal than I used to be? Well, a big part of it is that I trust my partner completely. He has excellent self-control and knows better than to even let himself get close.
Okay. So I'm Hannah and I'm 17 years old. I was with a guy for 2 years. He was 16 at the time we first started dating, and I was 14. I was for sure inlove. We had sex like EVERY!! day, and sometimes upto 3-4 times a day. At first we used condoms all the time, but after a few times trying it without, condoms just didn't feel right. I loved the fact that I could actually feel him, and not rubber. =]
For almost 2 years, we used the pull out method. I wasn't on any kind of birthcontrol, mostly because my mom wouldn't let me, and didn't want me to be sexually active. Him and I even had sex on my periods, and I let him ejaculate inside me.
Not once through our relationship, did I ever get a scare about being pregnant.
About five months ago, I started dating another guy. Before having sex with him, I made sure that I got checked, and he did too. I was 16, and he was 17. We had sex alot, seeing how he only lived a few houses down, we saw eachother everyday. We didn't usually use condoms. We would have sex, unprotected, and then he would pull-out and cum, and he would put on a condom and we would go longer. We used the pullout method alot.
We brokeup about a month 1/2 ago, and he is still the only person that I'm having sex with, and I am to him. We still use the pull out method, and again not once have I thought that I was pregnant.
From my experience, pre-cum is just used as a lubricant.
I've been using the pull-out method for 3 years now.
Yes, there is a chance of getting pregnant, but I think it would be more of the guys' fault. Possibly, not pulling out on time, or just messing up.
Being safe is important, and its your choice to use protection.
You can definitely get pregnant even if he pulls out. If semen gets anywhere near the vulva, there's a chance of pregnancy. Also, you can get pregnant from pre-come if he hasn't peed since the last time he ejaculated (since the pre-come picks up residual semen). The best way to prevent pregnancy is to always use protection.
so. me and this guy hooked up about a week and a half ago. he did use a condom. and he did pull out. i've been on birth control for quite a while, but a little before we had sex i had missed taking it a couple of days. i know i'm like stressing out bad here but i just really need to know if i have something to worry about. i've been on my pills for a week and a half now. its just my breasts are super sensitive right now. but i thought maybe im just over thinking it. please someone help me out here.