Question: I’m 18 and still a virgin. Most guys I meet lose interest after they learn this. I’m comfortable being a virgin, but do guys look at it as a bad thing?
Answer: Some do. A lot don’t. I’m not sure why these guys are losing interest. Maybe they are all of that charming stock who only want to date girls if they think they will score. In that case, it’s probably better to cut your losses early.
Of course, there could be other reasons guys are bailing. You might have overlooked those if you assumed your virginity was the culprit.
As you know, there are guys who are freaked out by virgins. But there are also guys who are freaked out by tall girls, outspoken girls or sexually active girls.
If someone freaks out, your best bet is to keep on walking until you come across someone who doesn’t. And though it might seem tempting, I don’t recommend lying about your sexual experience to keep a guy interested. Here’s three reasons that’s a bad idea:
Lying is a lot less cool than owning your virgin status.
When you do decide to have sex, it will be pretty awkward to have to act as if you’d already done it a million times before.
If your partner finds out you’ve made up past hot and heavy situations, his trust in the relationship is going to be seriously compromised.
You should also keep in mind that even if seems like you are the the last virgin in town, that’s pretty unlikely. In reality, only 47% of teens ninth through twelfth grade have ever had sex, and of those only 14% have done it with four or more people.
Look, we live in a world of mixed messages. Teens are encouraged to take vows of abstinence and pledges of virginity. Yet movies like Superbad and the 40-Year-Old Virgin make virginity seem like something you need to discard at the earliest possible opportunity. It’s no wonder the issue isn’t clear cut. But not being clear-cut and being a serious roadblock to a relationship are two different things.