Question: I’m 18. How do you know when you’ve had an orgasm?
Answer: I’ve seen this question answered in a few ways.
The condescending answer is, "If you have to ask, you haven’t had one."
The technical answer is: "An orgasm is the release of muscle tension. This is called myotonia. When it is combined with the flooding of the hormone serotonin into the bloodstream, a sexual climax occurs."
The hippy answer is: "You know you’ve had an orgasm when the cosmos align in a flowing crash of sexual pleasure."
Any of those help?
If not, here’s a little more info. Many people describe orgasms as the peak (or climax) of sexual arousal. Some people say they feel like an orgasm is a big release of excitement.
This climax/peak/release can come after a few minutes of stimulation. Or it may take an hour of fooling around before it occurs. Many women need their clitoris touch directly to orgasm, but some can come just from vaginal penetration. After an orgasm occurs, it is common to feel giddy, happy, relaxed or tired.
Even with all that being said, you should know that everyone experiences orgasm differently. Some people have huge physical reactions. Others have orgasms that are more like spikes in pleasure.
One thing to keep in mind is that orgasms rarely resemble what you see in movies. Just because you always thought an orgasm would leave you a screaming mass of desire, yet what you’ve been experiencing is making you feel more like a giggly puddle of goo, don’t worry. If you think you’ve had an orgasm, but are questioning whether or not you did, don’t over analyze. If it feels good, go with it.
Of course if you are pretty sure you aren’t coming and want to, there are plenty of things you can do to help make it happen!