Question: After my boyfriend and I get intimate (cuddling, kissing, touching) my entire body gets hot, I start to shake and shiver, my heart pounds and my muscles feel like jell-o. I don’t know what it means and why it’s happening. Is that normal or is something wrong with me?
Answer: That’s totally normal. In fact, it’s most likely an orgasm. So what’s an orgasm? According to our fast facts:
"An orgasm happens at the height of sexual stimulation and pleasure. Both men and women have orgasms–usually through masturbation or sexual activity with someone else. When you have an orgasm, your genital muscles tense up until there is a sense of fullness in your pelvis. The release that follows is the orgasm: basically a series of involuntary contractions radiating out from the genitals, uterus and anus. For women, the primary pleasure center is the clitoris. But some may also experience orgasms when areas of the vagina are stimulated."
I would also add that while it is less common, some girls even climax from nipple stimulation, kissing or just thinking about something hot. Others have sleep-gasms and climax as they snooze.
For most women orgasms feel really good. But just like getting a mouthful of milk when you were expecting a swig of juice, an orgasm might be really disconcerting if you aren’t prepared for it.
Now that you know what to look for, you can try to figure out if you are indeed climaxing. Of course, if you think there might be something else going on, drop me a comment and we’ll try to get to the bottom of the situation!
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