am i still a virgin if he broke my hymen and then we stopped?

Q:  Am i still a virgin if he broke my hymen and then we stopped?

A:  Kind of. 

If you ask me, I’d say sure. If you feel like you didn’t "complete" sex and want to call yourself a virgin, then go for it.

Of course, if you ask someone else you might get a slightly different answer. That’s because a lot of people believe you lose your virginity the first time you have vaginal sex (and some think you lose it from oral or anal sex), even if neither person has an orgasm.

But whatever you call yourself won’t change a few facts on the ground. For example, that having a penis in your vagina–even for a few minutes–can expose you to STDs, and that you have been sexually intimate with a partner.

There’s no definitive guide to sexual terminology (just ask the guy who thought monogamy didn’t refer to blow jobs or the girl who thought abstinence didn’t include anal).

However, there are some guidelines to sexual ethics that might apply to you.

1) Practice safer sex.
2) Get tested for STDs.
3) If you have one, tell your sex partners, or don’t have sex until you know it’s gone.
4) Don’t lie.

Look, if the question of your virginity comes up in the future, you can always be honest and tell someone what you told me. You just aren’t sure what your status is.


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  • unknown

    how do you know if your hymen is broken?

    • ????

      Well i think it depends on how you mentally feel. If you feel your not a virgin anymore then your not.

    • ????

      Oh and you may not know. It will bleed if you break it,but it could already be broken from ridding a horse or something

  • Sam

    I just wanted to know if it hurts to break the hymen and if there's a lot of blood.

  • Sam

    I just wanted to know if it hurts to break the hymen and if there’s a lot of blood.

  • Sam

    I just wanted to know if it hurts to break the hymen and if there’s a lot of blood.

    • ????

      It hurts yes,but there usually isn’t that much blood. I didn’t bleed very much. Hope this helps

  • jojo

    you're not a virgin anymore, gurl… he went in…

  • jojo

    you’re not a virgin anymore, gurl… he went in…

  • jojo

    you’re not a virgin anymore, gurl… he went in…

  • Lady luck

    your hymen couldve been broken before u had sex u can break it through excersise or wearing tampons.. if the guys penis got inside u then yeah ur not a virgin. the hymen may have been already broken.

  • krishay

    sorry but your not a virgin

  • Nikki

    Er look I'm not gonna be mean it's just the way I'm raised if you have sex you are no longer a virgen.
    Than again those are just my thoughts you may as well still be!

  • Evie

    amen Blake. with everyone fighting thats all that really matters. why do people care what other people call themselves sexually? so one person considers themselves a virgin and others dont does ti really matter? one of my friends had sex with penatration but they stoped before either finished(parents where coming home and they didnt want to get caught) most of us say shes not a virgin one of us says she still is but does it really matter?