Question #1: Is it normal for me to crave sex with my boyfriend all the time?
Question #2: Why does it seem like guys want to have sex more than girls want to have sex?
Answer: Seeing these questions remind me that some longstanding gender stereotypes about sex are still alive and well!
Ladies–It’s perfectly normal for you to have a sex drive and want to get it on all the time. Fellas–You don’t get to lay claim to being the hornier sex. Girls dig doing it, too!
So why are we still stuck on the idea that “guys want to have sex more than girls want to have sex” or that it’s weird for girls to “crave” it? Here are three reasons:
1) Movies. From eighties hits like Porky’s and Sixteen Candles all the way to last year’s Superbad, generations of comedies about teens and sex have made it seem as if girls are prudes and guys are slaves to their penises.
2) Biology. We’re a little confused when it comes to the workings of the body. Yes, boys produce testosterone. And yes, testosterone can take a lot of credit for the sex drive. But here’s a newsflash: girls produce testosterone too. Just like with guys, this hormone also contributes to girls’ sex drives! But because a girl is a lot less likely to have a wet dream or a spontaneous math class erection, we assume they aren’t feeling the effects as strongly.
3) Society. It’s 2008 and a woman is a strong contender to be the next President of the United States, yet girls still learn that they should play hard to get and that they shouldn’t appear overly interested in sex. Though some of society’s views about women are loosening up, a whole lot of others remain firmly in the dark ages.
Some girls want to have sex all the time. Some are less interested. Just like guys. The difference between guys and girls is that girls are more likely than guys to feel the need to hide their sexual feelings.
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