the next generation of celebrity virgins

JordinRemember when Jessica Simpson and Britney Spears were the poster children for virginity?  Clearly things have changed with those two. Simpson is now divorced and dating a football player. And Spears, well, you all know what she’s been up to.

Following in their footsteps comes the next generation of celebrity virgins.  First up, American Idol, Jordin Sparks.

Sparks told Us Magazine that she has worn a True Love Waits purity ring since she was 13 and explained, “Temptation is always there. It’s hard everyday, but I made a promise to myself. "  Her take on virginity sounds pretty familiar.

However, the Jonas Brothers, who also wear their chastity publicly, are charting some new territory simply by being male.

In an interview with Details magazine last winter, the brothers proudly showed off their purity rings and explained they wear them as "promises to ourselves and to God that we’ll stay pure till marriage."

Because virginity isn’t expected from young male celebrities, the Brothers have had to endure their share of ribbing. The most recent incident occurred at the VMAs when the host wondered why the Brothers weren’t using their fame to score. 

Going on stage shortly after, Sparks came to their defense. "I just have one thing to say about promise rings. It’s not bad to wear a promise ring because not everybody – guy or girl – wants to be a slut."

Now I have no problem with the personal choice not to have sex. Or the tactics people use to make that choice a reality. What I do have a problem with are comments like the one made by Sparks.

Why is sex simply an either or thing?  Why is it that you are either proclaiming your virginity to the world with your purity ring, or you’re a big old slut?

Sure "not everybody wants to be a slut." But here’s a newsflash for Jordin, not everyone who has sex is.

Almost half of all American teens are sexually active. But of those, only 14% had sex with 4 or more people, and over 65% use condoms. Doesn’t sound all that slutty to me. Of course, I never took a virginity pledge, and I have a feeling that my views on the matter are probably a little different than people who have. 

Celebrities love to embrace causes, and that’s fine. But I’d rather they didn’t use their platform to diminish teens whose choices differ. 

What do you think about celebrity virginity pledges? Are they admirable? Annoying? Neither?

Photo provided by Frederick M. Brown

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