reasons to be a virgin: from the message boards

minni16 says, "I want to know why you girls are virgins??

Me:
–I don’t want to regret it
–Scared of pregnacy even if I use protection
–It will probably hurt
–My boyfriend and I have only been going out for a month and a half."

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  • Sammie

    Im 17, a senior in highschool, and i lost my virginity 2 months ago. I do not regret it AT ALL. I truely love my boyfriend and we have been official for a year and bestfriends fr 2 years. He is my world and my first time couldnt of been more amazing or perfect. Just make sure that you truely love and care for your partner and that you are both ready.

  • veree

    I'm 15 and I'm still a virgin. I almost had sex 2 times before with my ex-boyfriend but I wasn't ready so I just let him touch me a bit. I'm proud of having made that choice, and I will wait until marriage, even though I believe that having ex before it is ok as long as you're 100% sure and won't regret it.
    now I'm single so I don't really have someone to have sex with lol.. but I'm proud of being a virgin.. I'm kinda scared of it, because I don't wanna get pregnant or have any STD and I'm happy to know that I won't decieve my family because I've been taught to wait for the right guy and he hasn't appeared yet lol..

  • zariyah

    Im 11 and I am a virgin cause I personaly dnt think its kool 2 have sex

  • zariyah

    Im 11 and I am a virgin cause I personaly dnt think its kool 2 have sex

  • Lily

    I believe that if you want to wait until marriage that is your choice.
    If you do not, then just be 100% sure. Be absolutely sure.

  • Brittany

    I am not a virgin and I do not regret it.

  • Tianna

    Im 14 yrs young && i am not a virgin && i truly regret ma 1st time if i could take it baq ||I WOULD|| trust meh.. but i wasnt ready 2 do it wen i did heck!! i didnt even want 2 but i was jus scared dat da boi wouldnt want 2 go wit meh anymore but now all he do is brag about how he had meh && all i do is cry every single i evne think about dat moment

  • D.M.

    I though this might be a good place to share my story. I'm 19 and will be 20 in October. Last month I had sex for the first time. I considered any sexual touching a loss of virginity and so I stopped considering mysef a virgin a month before I had sex. Because my boyfriend touched me sexually for the first time.
    Anyway, I was one of those abstinance chicks. I even wore a silver ring as a symbol of this. I wa all about waiting for marriage, and I'd still encourage people to wait for marriage.
    But I was fully and completly sure that I was ready. I'm completly in love with my boyfriend. He and I had been dating for 6 months beforeI even let him get his hand up my shirt,7 months before I let him touch me sexually and le myelf tuch him sexually, and 8 months before we had sex. We knew each other really well,knew each others dating histories,religious beliefs, ect. We discused everything in detail, th pros and the cons. We are both adults and feel that we could handle it emotionally, physically, and possibly financially if the need be. We went about it in a safe manner and used protection. We value each other and both of us are independent and secure in ourselves. We were completly ready and neither of us regret our decission.
    But had we done it earlier, whether with each other or with other people, I think we both would have regreted our decision. Neither of us was fully ready for it until recently.
    If anyone is thinking about having sex for the first time, they should really think about it. It's not something to take lightly. It can change your life. And never let anyone make you think that you have to. You never have to! You can say no at any time. You can both be nude and standing in front of each other and say no. If a guy won't take no for an answer, he isa jerk and not worth your time. And if you say no and he forces you, it's rape. And if you are raped, it is not your fault and you should report it to the authorities. It will help prevent others from getting raped.
    I know this ended up turning into a rant. I'm sorry about that. But I know a girl who was raped and ast winter I was almost raped. But the girl I know blames herself. She never reported the guy and he still walks free. He abuses his girlfriends physically and emotionally, probably sexually too.
    Anyway, you virginity is special. You can only give it away once. Make sure you are fully ready before giving it away.

  • Amber S.

    Only 15 and so far, at the risk of being called a prude by my classmates, I haven't gone any further than groping through the clothes. My virginity is something that I want to save for someone I really love. Not neccessarily the one I'll marry, though that would be the icing on the cake.

  • arielle

    Ladies; i'm 17 and about to be a senior in high school, and i'm still a virgin. For the most part, i'm proud of still being a virgin. At times it does bug me a little bit because all of my friends have lost it, but i know that i shouldn't do things i'm not ready for and just because everyones doing it does not mean i have to follow suit. Yes, i have gotten fingered, yes i have had a guy go down on me, and yes there has been opportunities and moments where I've been tempted to have sex. It really comes down to your personal values and opinions. i haven't lost mine yet because i want it to be with someone i'm in love with, with someone worth losing it to, and most importantly someone who i trust and won't regret having sex with, and until that day comes i'm fine with respecting my body and beliefs and remaining a virgin.

  • arielle

    Ladies; i’m 17 and about to be a senior in high school, and i’m still a virgin. For the most part, i’m proud of still being a virgin. At times it does bug me a little bit because all of my friends have lost it, but i know that i shouldn’t do things i’m not ready for and just because everyones doing it does not mean i have to follow suit. Yes, i have gotten fingered, yes i have had a guy go down on me, and yes there has been opportunities and moments where I’ve been tempted to have sex. It really comes down to your personal values and opinions. i haven’t lost mine yet because i want it to be with someone i’m in love with, with someone worth losing it to, and most importantly someone who i trust and won’t regret having sex with, and until that day comes i’m fine with respecting my body and beliefs and remaining a virgin.

  • Deola

    Im 18 rite nw nd im still a VIRGIN. Im proud to say it anywhere dat im still a virgin.Im nt sayin dat im holy damn ive done alots of things bt 4 me to do d actual act………no way. I want to do it with sumone who i will love 4 d rest of ma life. I dont want to regret ma first time, i want to remember it.

  • LuxAurumque

    I am 18 and still a virgin. I've never really started thinking about sex until now, but I'm not in a hurry to lose it. My three best friends scared me out of having sex; they both lost their virginity when we were in the 8th grade. Two of them just had babies, and the other one is six months pregnant. The two of them slept with so many guys they don't know who their baby's father is, and one of their boyfriends broke up with her because she wouldn't get an abortion. All I've seen around me is broken hearts and tears, so for a long time I felt that nothing good could come out of sex and wondered what the big deal was. Now that I'm older, I know that sex isn't the terrible thing that I thought it was, but I'm still not eager to lose my virginity anytime soon.

  • katie

    I just turned 18, just graduated high school and about to start my college life and im still a virgin. and to be honest, i always wanted to try to wait until i was married to have sex, but sometimes you honestly just get caught up in the moment and want to do it. i personally have resisted those urges and now i think i dont want to resist anymore. my best guy friend (hes not a virgin) and i have liked each other for a while now, but i refused to go out with him officially because im leaving for college 8 hours away and i thought it was stupid to start something senior year just for it to end (thats just my opinion on how long distance relationships work , ive had 2 of them). were really close and i feel like he would be the best person to loose it to. i honestly love him and feel comfortable with him.
    there are a few reasons why i would want to have sex with him:
    1. i love him and feel comfortable with him
    2. i dont want to just loose it to someone random in college and have it mean nothing
    3. i know he will always be there for me no matter what might happen
    why i would NOT want to have sex with him:
    1. hes not a virgin ( i always wanted to loose it to someone who was also a virgin)
    2. i just dont want to get rid of it cus i take pride in my virginity
    3. i dont want to get even more emotionally attached to him
    4. i always wanted to be in a official long-term relationship my first time
    5. disease and pregnancy (the usual)
    im so confused on whether or not i should have sex before i leave for college. i need some advice.