is it okay to use my mom’s sex toys?

Question: Is it okay if I use my mom’s sex toys?

Answer: Look, I’m all about sharing (remind me to tell you about my experiences at Socialist summer camp, sometime), but when it comes to sex toys that belong to your mom, I might have to draw the line.

Here’s why:

  1. Your health. It is possible for STDs to be passed from toys to people.  If you share toys it is really important to sterilize them between uses (there are different ways to do this depending on the toy in question), or cover them with a condom.

  2. Your mom’s mental health. A lot of people are uncomfortable with the idea of sharing a toothbrush or a straw, let alone a sex toy.  I’m going to go out on a limb and assume that you did not ask your mom to borrow her toys.  In that case she might be pretty freaked out to discover that you are using them.  Many people have boundaries when it comes to sex and this might be one of hers that you’re crossing.

It’s perfectly healthy to use sex toys. They are a great way to learn what feels good and are a safe way to explore your sexuality.

Unfortunately, it can be tough for teens to get their hands on things like vibrators and dildos. In a lot of places it is actually against the law for minors to buy sex toys. (In some places it is even against the law for stores to sell sex toys to adults!).

That being said, it’s not against the law for teens to buy a vibrating back massager, and I can’t really imagine your local drug store carding you if you plunk an electric toothbrush down on the counter.

Or if you have a good relationship with your mom, and think she would be cool with the request, you could always ask her to buy you your own toy.

So next time you hear the call coming from the drawer next to your mom’s bed, you might want to consider some alternate orgasm options.

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  • Arm long

    I’m all for sharing, but if your mom doesn’t want you using her private toys, then U have to put them back in the place, position, & condition it was in before U took it.

  • abby

    hey, if you really want one and are under 18 go to spencer's if you have one near you. they usually never ID.

  • Okay I'm not sure if it is good or not to use your parents things. But If you want a sex toy or something just be open with her and talk to her.

  • Really its not good for health…It may creates infection….

  • NGR

    im 17 and cant wait to buy my own i think its important to masturbate especailly sum1 who wants to wait like i do 🙂 til marriaage

  • anna-maria

    It may seem weird, but I've used my mothers sex toy once before, she has a very basic dildo. I was just tired of my little finger trying to achieve what it couldn't. Interestingly enough though, going from a finger to a six inch dildo was very pleasurable, in fact I orgasmed before I could get the whole thing in. heh. Sorry if that's weird :]

    • Did u ask ur mum to use her dildo or just steal it?