Question: Is it okay if I use my mom’s sex toys?
Answer: Look, I’m all about sharing (remind me to tell you about my experiences at Socialist summer camp, sometime), but when it comes to sex toys that belong to your mom, I might have to draw the line.
Your health. It is possible for STDs to be passed from toys to people. If you share toys it is really important to sterilize them between uses (there are different ways to do this depending on the toy in question), or cover them with a condom.
Your mom’s mental health. A lot of people are uncomfortable with the idea of sharing a toothbrush or a straw, let alone a sex toy. I’m going to go out on a limb and assume that you did not ask your mom to borrow her toys. In that case she might be pretty freaked out to discover that you are using them. Many people have boundaries when it comes to sex and this might be one of hers that you’re crossing.
It’s perfectly healthy to use sex toys. They are a great way to learn what feels good and are a safe way to explore your sexuality.
Unfortunately, it can be tough for teens to get their hands on things like vibrators and dildos. In a lot of places it is actually against the law for minors to buy sex toys. (In some places it is even against the law for stores to sell sex toys to adults!).
That being said, it’s not against the law for teens to buy a vibrating back massager, and I can’t really imagine your local drug store carding you if you plunk an electric toothbrush down on the counter.
Or if you have a good relationship with your mom, and think she would be cool with the request, you could always ask her to buy you your own toy.
So next time you hear the call coming from the drawer next to your mom’s bed, you might want to consider some alternate orgasm options.
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