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Question: Lately, I’ve been getting really horny and have considered masturbation. I know it’s normal, and I’m not into sex quite yet, so this is the only way I feel I can relieve myself. If my finger goes in too far and I break the hymen, am I still a virgin? I don’t want to lose it to, well, my finger. And if I do end up breaking the hymen, does it bleed?
Answer: Here’s the deal: Most people think someone loses their virginity the first time he or she has sex with another person. Of course, some people still believe that being a virgin means having an intact hymen. Looking at virginity in this way is a problem for a few reasons. For one thing, how would guys ever lose their virginity? For another, there are plenty of ways to stretch your hymen without ever having sex.
Here are a few:
- Masturbating
- Using Tampons
- Doing gymnastics and other sports
- Riding bikes or horses
Plus, the hymen naturally has openings in it. If it didn’t, it would be awfully hard for girls who had hymens to have their periods. Girls with a lot of openings in their hymens often don’t notice any pain or bleeding when it’s broken. Neither do girls who have gradually stretched their hymens over time.
Despite what people may think, the hymen is not a biological test of virginity. So what is it for then? One theory is that the hymen might help keep dirt out of the vagina before a girl gets her period. (After a girl begins menstruation, her menstrual flow will help flush out any bacteria once a month). A different idea is that the hymen is just a by-product of the natural process of sex differentiation (when a fetus will develop either a penis or a vagina based on whether it has XX or XY chromosomes). Either way, the existence of a hymen is not nature’s way of sneakily testing girls.
So are you still a virgin if you stretch your hymen masturbating? In my book, you definitely are.
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i had a sex with my boyfriend in the On the last day of the menstrual cycle, and he put his fingers into my pussy but not so deep,after 1 hour i saw my underware,i saw some blood, i dont know if im still virgin or not, he say i don’t do any thing you are totally virgin, and maybe you just have injury,and i don’t know if he is honest or not ???? im from (Committed to religious) family plz i need help plz any one tell me and i cant visit the doctor ?
my email is rozaleta_rh@hotmail.com i need help :’(
And Often times i change into shorts so oit is easier to reach down and rub it. Still reply though!
Okay when i get horny i just rub my vagina slightly and when i am really horny instead of sticking my fingers in my vagina i take a shower and put the shower head on pulse and stick it up to my vagina and let it work its magic. I have fingered myself once but i don’t think i have broken my hymen. I have a question for all of you out there.. Does it hurt when you break your hymen? Does it hurt when you have your first time? Please reply!! Thanks!
I have masturbated just by rubbing my vagina but today I noticed my hymen hanging out of my vagina. Should I pull it out or something or does it dissolve or what? It's really annoying and I don't know what to do! Is it gonna be like that untill I have acutual sex for the first time?
how do you know if your hymen is broken?
does breaking of hymen affects menstruation ?
im a dancer and using pads are extremely inconvenient. so im thinking of using tampons but i dont know how and im still a virgin so im afraid itll hurt too much. what do you recommend?
hello girls,
im wondering why my nipples and my are down there skin look black a litlle why?im told if im using razor to shave thats might be the problem can u help here?
does everybody bleed the first time they have sex?
because i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend like 2 weeks ago & I didn't bleed… so Im kind of wondering why?
when you have sex for the first time do you bleed? if so what do you do? do you stop
If you get "Licked out" can your hymen break?
WELL iVE hAD SEXUAL INTERCOURSE FOR THE FIRST TIME..
N I WAS BLEEDING afterwards…
IS tHIS nORMAL??
iM FREAKiNG OUT!
My hymen never really broke, and I am not a virgin… at all. Ever.
And you can't have periods all throughout pregnancy. It's possible to have some spotting, but not a period; there's not really a way for you to tell the difference. If you think you're pregnant, take a test. That's that.
No, Beki, no one has a period through pregnancy. A menstrual cycle is for shedding the lining of the uterus, which would normally nourish an zygote/embryo/fetus. That uterine lining becomes the placenta, which is what the umbilical cord is attached to.
But, back on topic: I'm pretty sure my hymen is broken, and I'm still a virgin. I've been using tampons for about a year and have been a gymnast for six :]
cheyenne, if you think you could be pregnant, get a test, some people continue to have periods throughtout pregnancy, plus the worry that you might be pregnant can affect you period (plus your sanity) so just do a test so you know for sure.
u might not know if ur pregnant yet bc it has only been one period. if you naturally light, you may think your pregnant and not be. also you could spot and be pregnant..
my advice – take a pregnancy test.
I had sex for my first time and it was unprotecte but he didn't break my by hymen and he didn't go off in me and that was in December if I was pregnan would I already know?
Yup, Nikki's right.
You should stick with the guy who LOVES you and NOT with the guy who is USING you, at least that's way I see it.
I was in the same situation, and yes I did love that kind of guy but then when I realized he was using me and CHEATING on me, I broke up with him. It's just humiliating.
Now I've found a guy who loves me very much, though not as much as I love him, but at least it's better because he's not using me.
At least I can learn to eventually love him, right?
Stick with adam without a second thought.
no offense atall but i feel bad for adam,,sounds like ur his world && ur sleepin with another guy?!?!
stop it! leave hamza!
talk to ur bf && he might want sex? if not be patient! he sounds worth it xx
bets wishes && lots of luurve x
– Nikki xx
hi…..well im gna com out wiv it
i finger myself…nd i give myself orgasms
i do this everyday but obviously wen im on my own or wen everyones fast asleep..
now that i'v realised i do this like 3 times a day im scared iv lost my virginity…
the time here is 15:32 and iv alredi given myself like 5 orgasms
actually even wen writing this im tempted so put my fingers down there
i do like 2 watch porn coz i feel horny and i love it
i do hav a bf but i dnt think he wants 2 hav sex just yet so iv got anotha bf and hes the type 2 have sex weneva i want
wot should i do??
stay with my 1st bf or the 2nd 1
the 1st loves me and would die 4 me
but i love the 2nd 1
i feel like a total bitch doing this 2 adam (my first bf) bcoz he reli lovs me
but hamza (2nd bf) i lov him alot
plzzz help me make the rite decision..
thnx xx