does sex hurt the first time?

dear heather,

Does sex hurt the first time?

Yes. Sex can be painful the first time. Many of the women I asked said there was some pain or mild discomfort involved for them.

Basically, if a person’s hymen (a thin piece of skin at the opening of a woman’s vagina) is still intact there may be some physical pain or just discomfort. It really depends on how unstretched the hymen may be. Lubricants such as K-Y jelly or Aqualube might help to lessen the pain. I just have to say of course that safe sex is extremely important and you must use a condom.

It is also vital that the person be ready to have sex both mentally and physically. As a woman becomes more aroused and relaxed her vaginal entrance will become more loose which can make the experience less painful. Thus all these things indicate that having a partner who you like and who makes these discussions easier to have is so important.

take care,

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  • babygurl

    I agree Nickie. The fuss that goes on. The discomfort is so mild. As you say its more like a stretch and pressure. Sex is fun πŸ™‚ πŸ˜› πŸ™‚

  • Nickie

    lol…its not as painful as some exaggerate it to be. trust me. It’s more pressure than anything