why doesn’t death scare me?

dear heather,

OK, I have this problem. I’ve never really thought about it before, but then when I really started thinking of it, I realized that I’m not afraid to die. Is that weird? I mean, I don’t think I’m suicidal, cuz I don’t try to kill myself. It’s just that I wouldn’t care if I died. I think that’s really weird, and I’m worried about myself. I really can’t explain how I feel, but the more I think of it, the more I realize that I really don’t fear death. I don’t really know what to think. Help!

Your thoughts are your own, and you are entitled to have your own opinions about things. Just because your beliefs are different from what is considered mainstream doesn’t mean you have to be alarmed. Maybe think about why you feel the way you do and how you would defend yourself if challenged in a conversation about it. That way, you can better clarify why you think the way you do, and this can help you understand where your thoughts are coming from.I am not sure why you feel the way you do about death, but there are several possibilities. Maybe it’s related to your life and what you experience from day to day. Do you see a lot of violence or people dying around you? Maybe you are numb about it as a way to cope–like feeling you have nothing to lose. Or maybe you are trying to avoid a problem or emotion, and as a result, the idea of dying doesn’t scare you because it would be the end of whatever problem or emotion is bothering you. On the other hand, do you feel invincible? Perhaps your religious or spiritual background has taught you that death is not something to be feared, but is merely the next step to another place. Or you could just be a person for whom death is not a big deal.

Since you are bothered by this, you may want to read about perspectives on death and see how different religions look at it. There’s On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, which is a famous book about how death affects the living.

take care,
heather


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  • Abbie

    fear of death is worse than death itself.